Don’t cry because it’s over, smile because it happened.
I know I said that the wedding planning would cause me to be a rather irregular blogger, but I hadn’t intended to allow the stress to make me completely absent from IBW. Last week, I realized how long it’s been since I’ve blogged steadily–since I’ve blogged at all really.
It’s already and only April, which, believe it or not, will make sense to some people.
This year, I’ve gotten engaged, adopted Pumpkin, lost another member of my family, started seriously budgeting with the help of Dave Ramsey, tore some ligaments in my right ankle, and made a job change by moving from the greeter department to registration.
It’s been an emotional, stressful, heartbreaking, and beautiful month.
You may not always end up where you thought you were going. But you will always end up where you are meant to be.
As I’ve said before, a big part of what I learned from NaNoWriMo was the importance of deadlines. And, yes, I’ll probably keep talking about NaNoWriMo…forever. On Thursday, I’m going to have a post about my goals for 2014, so I’m going to try to not make this and that the same post.
If you don’t give yourself deadlines, for any sort of project in life really, it’s less likely that you’ll get it done. And, even if you do, it more than likely won’t be done in a timely manner.
Take blogging, for instance, if I don’t give myself deadlines, I’d rarely blog. Deciding to blog every day throughout the week and making that commitment to you–my readers–and myself ensures that I get it done. Unless the deadlines you’re working with were created by someone with authority (in a work or school environment, for example), you have to realize that you are the only one who can keep you accountable.
Of course, you can ask people to help you with this. Sometimes, you might even have people hold you accountable when you didn’t ask them to. For instance, many people who I work with ask me multiple times a week if I’ve finished the book I started writing for NaNoWriMo yet. They don’t understand that I’ve been taking a break from it for a reason, but they mean well.
Writing is also, in a big way, Thomas Jefferson‘s idea of “Never put off for tomorrow what you can do today.”
If you have a busy schedule, plan the time slot where you can write. Even if you’re drained from the day you just had or the day previous, sit down during your writing time and write. Don’t say or think you’ll do it later or tomorrow; pick up your pen, open your laptop, turn on your tablet, create a new note in your phone, and write. And, yes, this can be easier said than done.
Since I work 9 am-6 pm five days a week, it can be hard to find time to write. My weekends are typically spent doing things like laundry and grocery shopping and just relaxing with people I love, so I tend to hoard that time. During the week, I try to write some in the morning before I leave for work and sometimes before I go to bed. But, my main writing outlet has actually become a little, black, leather-bound, Mole Skin notebook that I have with me at work. Besides my fiction and poetry writing, I also have written most of my blog posts in this notebook.
Essentially, without my little black book, I wouldn’t get very much blogging done. Then again, some days I barely get any writing done because my wonderful work family enjoys pestering me–it’s difficult to write with someone hovering over your shoulder and asking what you’re doing.
I also have notebooks everywhere, including my purse and beside my bed. Sometimes, when I’m desperate, I’ll even frantically text myself some lines that I’ve thought up so I won’t forget them. Chanting them over and over again in my head only works sometimes.
If writing is your passion, then you need to write. It’s a s simple as that.